What erotic roleplay is, in plain words

Erotic roleplay is a role-playing game over text. Two people agree on where the scene takes place and who's in it, then take turns writing: each describes their own character's actions and words. The result is a little story for two that nobody knows in advance.

How explicit it gets can vary, from light flirting to bold scenes. But the foundation is always the same: a shared story and respect for the person writing on the other side.

Erotic roleplay vs. sexting: what's the difference

  • Format. Sexting is trading explicit messages and pictures. Roleplay is a shared scene with characters and a setting.
  • Photos. In sexting they're the main event; in roleplay you don't need them at all, since it's all in the words.
  • Pace. Sexting is usually quick; roleplay can last an evening or stretch over several days.
  • Risks. A photo you've sent can't be taken back. In roleplay you don't show yourself, only the character you made up.

The "yes, and..." rule: what makes a good scene