What should I text a guy if the chat has gone quiet for a couple of days?

Something that gives him an easy thing to do: a photo with "what kind of tree is this?" or a request to settle an argument. That's way easier to answer than "where'd you go?"

How many questions should I ask in one message?

One. Ask three and he'll answer the last one while the rest get lost.

What are the safest topics to talk about with a guy?

Food, travel, hobbies, and work told through stories rather than job titles. Early on, it's better to steer clear of exes, money and the future of your relationship.

What if he only replies in one-word answers?

Try the advisor or rival role — they take less effort. If that doesn't help either, his interest may just be low right now, and you shouldn't carry the conversation alone.

What to Talk About With a Guy: 4 Roles That Make Him Want to Reply, Plus Topics for Every Stage

Updated October 12, 20267 min readЧитать по-русски

In brief

Talking to a guy gets easier when you stop hunting for the "right" topics and start asking questions that give him a role: explain something, give advice, tell a story or argue a point. That's when he writes long replies and asks you things back. Below are four of those roles, topics for each stage of getting to know someone, and the signs a conversation is actually landing.

Why the conversation dies by the third message

"How was your day?" "Fine, worked." "What are you up to?" "Lying down." That's not indifference. Questions like these ask for a status report, and a status report has a short, honest answer with nothing to grab onto. Both of you sense something's off, and a couple of days later the chat quietly fizzles out.

The topic barely matters. What matters is the shape of the question: does it give him something to do besides report in?

Four roles that make it easier for him to write

The expertAsk about something he knows: "Explain it to me like I'm someone who can't tell a graphics card from a motherboard: why did you spend three months building a PC?" People love explaining things. The only risk: fake interest is easy to hear.
The advisor

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What to Talk About With a Guy: 4 Roles That Make Him Want to Reply, Plus Topics for Every Stage

Why the conversation dies by the third message

Four roles that make it easier for him to write

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